Happy Fat Tuesday!
Oh, what’s Fat Tuesday, you ask? It’s traditionally the Tuesday right before the beginning of the Christian Lenten season, Ash Wednesday, built as a last indulgence before the fasting and self-denial of Lent kicks in. Back in the day, it was a time when you ate lots of food before the last part of the winter fast (likely because food stores were getting low around this time). It’s Mardi Gras. It’s Shrove Tuesday. It’s Paczki Day, if you live around some good Polish stock. It’s the tops.
I was raised Lutheran, and although I am no longer religious, the traditions I grew up with still stick. We always started the day with paczki (pączek the singular), which if you’ve never had one…probably go eat one, you’ll understand. It’s like a delightful, fat, stuffed doughnut, usually filled with fruit fillings, custard, or creams.
This morning I picked up two dozen paczki for my office and classes, and for the first time, didn’t have an urge to eat one, just because they were in the car.
Can you blame me?!
Lots of times, especially on holidays, it’s an expectation to eat or drink specific foods, merely because of the day or because they are part of the celebration (think turkey on Thanksgiving, egg nog at Christmas, green beer on St. Patrick’s Day), whether or not the food is something you enjoy, or feel you want.
Fundamental principles behind Inuitive Eating (my bible, how’s that for blasphemy) are to eat foods that are appealing, mostly eat foods with nutritional value, and to pay attention to internal cues of hunger and satiety. Basic for those without disordered eating patterns, but like learning to live in an alien world for ED folks working toward recovery.
The greatest thing about intuitive eating, though, is their recognition that it is normal to not always pay attention to these cues. Our environment, culture, and social world all interact with our patterns of eating, and these cues might differ from what our body’s trying to tell us. Think about accepting a slice of pumpkin pie after Thanksgiving dinner, even though you’re stuffed, because your mom made it, and it’s expected to eat pie after dinner.
To eat intentionally means being aware of both sets of cues, both internal and external, then making a mindful decision about what you will put in your body. It means not eating something just because it’s a certain day, but checking in with your body, and with your mind, determining your priorities and what’s important, then making your choice.
I don’t even like paczki very much, but eat one every year, because it’s tradition. I’m sure you have times in your life when you’re pressured (or even just feel awkward saying no).
Also traditional is to “give up” something for Lent. In Christian tradition, this mirrors Jesus’s trials in the desert for 40 days, ending on Easter Sunday. Often, the first thing we think to give up is food we like. Just like eating for non-mindful reasons, depriving ourselves of food/drink we enjoy can lead to disordered thinking/eating patterns later down the road.*
Simple denial (restriction, in ED terms) can make food loom large in our minds – it’s one of the reasons dieting is notoriously unsuccessful. When we say we can’t eat something, it can lead to increased desire to eat that food, simply because it is forbidden. It creates a huge cloud of feelings around it, and even shame if when we eventually do eat it…which, for those astute readers, is basically an eating disorder. Food does not have moral value, and the food we choose does not reflect on our personhood or our moral value as people.
Enjoy your Fat Tuesday, if you celebrate it. I hope you choose to enjoy it in mindful ways that honor your personhood and value. Eat with intention.
And if you want a paczek, eat one intentionally!
*Please refer to “The Underpants Rule” – you can do anything you want with your own body, including prioritizing weight loss, or health, or not! This is not a list of what everyone should and should not do, just information and thoughts.
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